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It shouldn't be this hard! Why relationships are a delicate balance.

it shouldn't be this hard! why relationships are a delicate balance.

Do you ever have the feeling that certain relationships in your life are harder than others?On the one hand, you might have a fantastic network of friends who you love spending time with, you find these interactions uplifting and fulfilling. But conversely, you have family relationships that just feel so difficult and tedious.Or you may feel that your intimate partner...

We all get angry, but not everyone gets mad

By Greg Eder,

we all get angry, but not everyone gets mad

Seven different anger types and what you can do about themWe all get angry. For some, their anger is no more than a minor hiccup; for others it is an intensely furious rage.On its own, anger is a very normal, healthy human emotion. In fact, anger – along with joy, sadness, and fear – is one of our four universal...

Some strategies for peace and happiness at Christmas

some strategies for peace and happiness at christmas

By Psychology Melbourne psychologist, Gloria LewThe Christmas season is meant to be a time of joy, but for many people it can be a time of stress, anxiety, disappointment or loneliness. Christmas comes with high expectations of perfect, happy families enjoying luxurious celebrations and gifts, but not all of us are able to live up to these ideals.Many are stressed by the...

Social Anxiety

Edited by Jill Wright,

social anxiety

Social anxiety is the third largest mental health problem and most common anxiety disorder worldwide today. Sufferers are characterised by irrational fears of social situations, being negatively judged and evaluated by other people, provoking feelings of embarrassment, inadequacy and insecurity. Often perceived by outsiders as simply being shy, awkward or a bit different, for those experiencing it, feelings of distress...

It's safe to feel your emotions

it's safe to feel your emotions

This post is by Psychology Melbourne psychologist OrlyMillerWhat are emotions? Emotions are body sensations. What does anxiety feel like? Tight and constricted like I can't get a deep breath. What does sadness feel like? Heavy and dense like a weight pulling me down. What does joy feel like? Spacious and expansive. We experience each emotion as a set of sensations somewhere in our body....

Why are we feeling this way?

why are we feeling this way?

This post is by Psychology Melbourne psychologist Gloria LewTo spare oneself from grief at all costs can be achieved only at the price of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness. - Erich FrommToday we are all, in one way or another, linked to everybody else on the planet. We face something malevolent that cannot be seen without a microscope. All...

What happens in an Intensive Short –Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP) session?

what happens in an intensive short –term dynamic psychotherapy (istdp) session?

This post is by Psychology Melbourne psychologist  Aisha Seedat-TimolI am often inspired in my work by a quote from American psychotherapist Jon Frederickson, founder of the ISTDP Institute, in one of his books, The Lies We Tell Ourselves:"Life is hard, but psychological suffering can be unbearable. To find a way to bear it, we may seek a good therapist. But...

Relationships in lockdown - two wheels spinning?

relationships in lockdown - two wheels spinning?

By Richard Weld-Blundell         “And stand together yet not too near together:                           For the pillars of the temple stand apart,        And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”                     ...

Coping with motherhood in lock-down

coping with motherhood in lock-down

By psychologist Andrea LarkinsBeing a mother or caregiver in these unprecedented times of pandemic presents us with many challenges. Our lives are complicated by uncertainty. From week to week, or even day to day, we are confronted by significant changes which may include instability or lack of employment, the pressures of working from home, isolation from family, friends and community,...

Stress and anxiety in times of adversity

stress and anxiety in times of adversity

By Paula Teggelove(Paula Teggelove's next online short course on Managing Stress and Anxiety begins on August 3)From this Thursday, as Victorians advance further into lockdown conditions, we will all have to wear face masks when we venture from home. It’s important that we don’t try, at the same time, to mask what we are feeling and experiencing as a result of...