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Challenges of using porn and Detrimental impact of sexual intimacy use of internet porn by men

challenges of using porn and detrimental impact of sexual intimacy use of internet porn by men

More and more men are seeking assistance and support due to their long-term regular use of internet pornography (often since from adolescence).  Many men are reporting that they cannot perform sexually with their partner, even after a shortish relationship.  They may utilise pornography to masturbate every day or every other day or at least several times a week for a myriad of reasons, including habit, learnt behaviour, convenience, ‘saving time’, self-focus on control and sexual excitement and pleasure.  This may cause problems for men in terms of physical and sexual intimacy, a range of emotional problems and lack of trust from partners.  Men often become overwhelmed by the negative impact on relationships and partners of their porn use.

Men also frequently find it very difficult to openly talk about this sort of thing without being judged by partners and others.  Porn use elimination requires behaviour change and being able to cease the urge.  This is part of changing the focus of self-satisfaction using pornography to sharing sexual intimacy with partner, awareness of pleasure for the other and obtaining mutual pleasure.

Strong and self-driven motivation for change will assist you with this journey. 

Dr Phil Watts (Australian clinical and forensic psychologist) has produced a great self help guide for men, ‘IP: DIY.  Internet Pornography: Do-it-yourself treatment guide for men. (2014)